Worst Hair Style EVER

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Worst Hair Style EVER

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The Cheap Lace front Wig... Please stop wearing it people I have yet to see anyone look cute with a cheap lace front wig on. As a matter of fact I have only seen two people wear $100+ lace-fronts and look cute. Put them down black women ... really stop.

If it don't look like this around the hair line...just don't. There is no need for ya hair line to be looking tight and pasted

Black grandmother

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Black grandmother

Grandmaslap
Jill Ciccone Pike
http://www.northcarolinaartists.net/artist_page.php?id=329

I found this pic online and I loved it. It makes me think of all the grandmothers who are out there and have raised their own children but find themselves once again wearing the shoes of parent with their grandchildren. This is very normal in the black community. The view of a family is normally described as: father, mother, children. But this is not what is the normal in the black community. With more and more children being born out of wedlock and more fathers walking away, the view of a black family has changed from days of old.
I don't want it to seem as if I'm picking on black men because I'm not. I personally think that there are many good black men out there..and that there are quite a few bad mothers in our community.
I think the key to this is to teach our children responsibility and to let them know to hold on to their bodies longer. A teenager is not ready to be a parent. I know of young adults who are good parents but most are just not ready for that responsibility.
I should point out that although this blog is directed to the black community, we are not alone in this but we do have the highest numbers in grandmothers becoming mothers again

Article I found online...READ IT!!

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Article I found online...READ IT!!

Behind the statistics about single mothers lies a complicated story about men
Betty Bayé

A friend recently took a European vacation with her man and expects to meet his parents later this year.
"Do you think he's the one?" I whispered to her when the other women around us weren't listening.
"Maybe," she said, flashing a very hopeful grin.
Later, it occurred to me that I have quite a few women friends, either in their 50s or close to it, who have never been married.
Mostly, they're solidly educated, well-read and well-traveled professionals and entrepreneurs. Yet, as together as they are, they remain among the African-American never-marrieds.
Don't get me wrong. Few of my never-married women friends sit around pining for some prince. They hardly have time. They're thoroughly modern; in fact, several haven't allowed the absence of a groom to deny them motherhood. Some are solo parents of adopted children and foster children, and a few have given birth the old-fashioned way, fully expecting to rely on "the village" (family, friends, church or such groups as Big Brothers/Big Sisters) to assist them with their parenting.
Still, plenty of life-long unmarried African Americans I know would love to marry. Or, as one put it, "to at least be asked."
Sadly, as many as a third of African-American women who harbor such dreams won't see them fulfilled if they limit their choice of mates to only African-American men.
Though my eyeballing is suggesting ever more strongly these days that younger African-American women aren't bothering to limit their marriage options to black men, the 2000 Census found that 73 percent of black-white couples were black men married to white women.
The dilemma for African-American women who wish to marry African-American men virtually shouted from the pages of the March Governing magazine.
An article about altering welfare policies to focus on fathers included a chart showing that the percentage of black children under 18 years old living with a single, never-married parent rose from 14.1 percent in 1970 to 28.7 percent in 1980, to 51.8 percent in 1990, to 63 percent in 2002. ( I think it's now 71%)Numerous studies over the years have given explanations for the absence of enough marriageable black men to go around.
Some key reasons include welfare policies that drove men out of poor black households, black men's chronic joblessness (their rates often are double and triple that of whites) and the government's war on drugs. For at least two generations now, that war has resulted in hundreds of thousands of African-American males spending their prime years for getting educated and marrying behind bars.
Other factors are homosexuality and the lopsided mortality rate for African-American men compared to every other group. A new study of health inequalities, for example, found that African-American men account disproportionately for African Americans' 83,000 "excess deaths" in any given year.
So, when all is said and done, the pickings are pretty slim for African-American women romantically interested in black men only. And the irony to me is how many Sundays such women sit in churches being lectured, mostly by married male preachers, that if they want to marry, it's their duty to do so with men with whom they're "evenly yoked" -- meaning men who are similar in faith, income, education and dreams.
"Easy for the preacher to say," many women mumble as they look around in the church, on the job and out in the world and see what's as clear as the noses on their faces: that most of the black men with whom they'd stand a chance of being evenly yoked aren't available.
Obviously, there's a need for more African-American men to get themselves together; to take more serious personal responsibility for their lives. But African Americans didn't create this imbalance between black men and women all by themselves. Nor can they fix it all by themselves. If we as a society are demanding that more black men become good husbands and responsible fathers, we must also strive to eradicate the social, economic and political policies that unfairly target black males to fail and that perpetuate the false notion that, in the words of one recent study, "the dramatic rise in African-American single motherhood is a capricious choice."

Betty Bayé reports on social issues with an emphasis on women and African-Americans. Her column appears Thursdays in The Forum. Read them online at;
http://www.courier-journal.com/.

What happened to the black MAN??..II

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What happened to the black MAN??..II

One of the most important and most influential people in my life growing up was my great-uncle Mr. Charlie Huffman.  Uncle Charlie was there when I was a toddler holding my hand, babysitting me while my mom and grandma was at work, and just simply there. My uncle took me to school everyday and when my sister and I wanted to play jump rope he would turn the other end since there was only two of us and my brothers didn't want to play with "lil girls". The first time I rode my bike without training wheels Uncle Charlie was there cheering  me on and when I fell off he dusted me off told me "you can do it girl" and put me back on, and when I was able to ride without falling off he said " there you go girl, you sho can ride that bike"... he ..was there.

I didn't have a father growing up. I know who he is of course, and I saw him from time to time but it was Uncle Charlie who was my dad. Uncle Charlie who took me shopping, met my first boyfriend, and taught me how to drive. Some nights we would sit up til the sun came up laughing and watching movies, and on the weekend we would take a long drive to the country.

He was nice, kind, and sweet. and still had a job at 80 years old.

He fixed things that was broken without anyone asking, he mowed the grass, raked the yard, planted flowers, and still managed to look out for me. He was a man.

So tell me readers if my uncle was able to do all these things at 80 why is it so hard to find a 30 year old man who will do it?

what happen to the Black Man?

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what happen to the Black Man?

Definition of a Man
Artist: Jay C. Bakari
http://www.artisanartsonline.com/


I love this picture. This strong black man taking on the world and protecting his child all at the same time.


I often wonder what happened to the black man. I know that we have Obama in the White House, and when it was announced that he was the new President I fell to my knees and with tears running down my face I gave thanks just like all the other black people I know. It was not only time that a black man took charge of what black slaves had built but it was well deserved.
But as I was saying what happened to the black man?

A list of construction workers building the White House in 1795 includes five slaves - named Tom, Peter, Ben, Harry and Daniel -- all put to work as carpenters. Other slaves worked as masons in the government quarries, cutting the stone for early government buildings, including the White House and U.S. Capitol. According to records kept by the White House Historical Association, slaves often worked seven days a week -- even in the hot and humid Washington summers.

http://www.cnn.com/2008/US/12/02/slaves.white.house/index.html