I don't think so brotha man

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I don't think so brotha man

"that ones to stupid to keep"

I've written quite a bit about relationships, love, and crazy dudes. Well I have to revisit the subject. I recently met a guy... gave him my number took his ... blah blah blah same old song and dance. Well after the first conversation I was almost certain that NOTHING was going to happen with that, he was very cute but lacking brain power. Knowing that I can sometimes be ummmm just a little selective and not easy to please when it comes to men, I decided to give him another chance. WHY BLOGGERS WHY? Well I know why, it's because I'm single and I know that I don't want to be this way forever. One day I want to revisit the land of "in love" and than (after the ring and all that jazz) I would love to revisit the land of sex. But back to Mr. ewwwww. To just shorten the story he wanted sex, lots of it and different varieties... WITH ME WHOM HE KNOWS NOT AT ALL. Yall I'm not being naive I know that men want sex but I'm just so over some of the nasty, stupid things men say. I am not willing to randomly 'hook' up with some unknown dude hoping that it will turn into a relationship. According to new research someone in America becomes infected with AIDS every 9 minutes. That is huge numbers. When a new guy starts to talk sex really early I can't get pass it EVER. If I ever talk to him again all I can think about is the fact that he wanted to sleep with me up front, no questions asked, and that he may be infected. Maybe this sounds a little crazy to some but when you know the rate that people are dying from STDs you know that it's a very real thing. ...  anyway on to the next guy and next date.....

Day...whatever

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Day...whatever

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A few years ago I decided to not have sex anymore until I met this..Mr. Wonderful. Now to be completely honest with you all this decision had nothing to do with religion. I do believe that premarital sex is a sin and all but my decision ..sad to say was not made because of that. I made the decision because it just wasn't worth it anymore. Yeah I know how that sounds but I'm not against sex .. I love sex really I do, but what I don't love is the idea of sharing myself with someone who doesn't matter. I have never been the 'slut of the neighborhood' type of girl. I didn't loose my virginity until I was eighteen and even than I had this fairy tale in my head of happily ever after.. that idea went out the window however around the time that he told me he was married. After that ..long, dreadful, mishap, I did the whole sex for the sake of sex college thing.. that didn't last long nor was it all that grand a time .. and again even than I wasn't the 'slut of the campus'. The guy I decided on.. having fun with.. was four years younger than me .. 18 to my 22.. and although it was...ummmm lol and he was beautiful to look at... it was just not something that I could then or now see for myself. I just can't see the point of being intimate with someone when you know there will be nothing more then that. What is the point of that? There is 24 hours in a day and15-30 minutes of sex.. (an hour or 2 max.. because lets get real joking about all night, all day sex is fun and all but Come On!...) is not enough to base a relationship on. Another reason I decided to not have sex for just the sake of sex is because I realize that I could never be happy with just that. I need phone calls and dates, conversations and laughs... I need the relationship. Not just any relationship but one that I think could last. There is just no way I see myself having sex with a dude that I can't even see in my tomorrows.. to me thats stupid.  Lets not even get on the health risks that are involved with just random sex... I like life.. I enjoy pain free, medicine free days... Anyway all this was said to simply say... I so miss sex..lol yeah I know what I just typed and that still stands. I'm not about to go trolling for booty lol but I .. so...miss ...sex...

Clothes On!!

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Clothes On!!

... Can you ...Really?

In a resent conversation with my aunt about sex, something was said to me that I thought was just ... well profound lol... She said "Expose yourself to me without taking off your clothes" I love this statement...even told her I was going to take it lol.
In my personal opinion I feel that women often give up everything for men and get little in return if anything. Now I'm not trying to offend any men. but I really do feel that this is the truth of the matter. No I don't feel that all women are 'good" but I do think that we look at sex very different then men. Now I may have mentioned in a previous blog that sex has been a long time ago for me... I won't say how long but hey it's been a minute. :) I think that often women when sexual with men find that their heart is involved even if at first they didn't intend for it to go that far. I don't think this is the case for men, in fact I have been told by men that sex is just sex any number of times. In the John Legend song Number One feat. Kanye West, In West's verse he says "my heart don't got nothing to do with my penis" I think that alot of men feel this way, In fact I was actually told this my one of my exs after he admitted to me that he had cheated...(another blog). This could not be further from the truth for women ...sex has everything to do with their heart.... Don't believe me? In an ABC American Survey it is noted that only about 30% of women always have orgasms during sex and only 45% sometimes have them. Still think women are in it just for e sex. Almost half of all women in America who are having sex with their partners are unsatisfied when it comes to the sex in their relationships..yet they are still in their relationships.
I personally think that their is a lack of conversation. You need to feel comfortable enough with your mate to tell him what you like, and what it is that you are not getting.. if he's their for you, and love you then he cares. A friend of mine recently told me that she has never had an orgasm...she was with her last boyfriend for about five years blogers..to me this speaks of lack of communication on her part or a lack of caring on his.
I think that the problem is that people often just jump into bed with out even knowing the person they are sleeping with. If you barely know his name how are you to feel comfortable telling him what it is that you like.
So the solution in my eyes is to keep them clothes ON!!! Just get to know him, laugh with him, and become friends. Stop being so afraid that he won't be there if you don't sex him ... if he goes away..well guess what he wasn't going to be around long anyway.


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