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OMG!! ...REALLY?

ok first for the OMG... I had a job interview today. My worst fear..besides not getting the job was that I would be ready to go and my car wouldn't work ..well surprise surprise it freakin worked..and I think the interviews went well. Now they will do the background check and my last interview and I'm in... *cross your fingers* I really want this job really really really really!! and I really need it ...so send up a prayer for me bloggers.
So now for the Really?... after working to go across town and coming back home I was feeling really good about Baby (thats my car). I was so hopeful that all was now well even though I have only had a oil change and even after that I had some problems.. So I come home sit for a while ...change for class, walk out to Baby ..... And freakin nothing I mean NOTHING!!  it is making noise but it won't freakin GO...it just dies after a second.
People I so need my car to do right... I have my last interview Monday... I'm thinking that I should take what little money I have saved and take Baby to the shop, I just want to wait until I hear from this Job first b/c if I get it then there we go A paycheck ... a way to fix my car .. and then get another one. I haven't already done that b/c I just really needed that money to stay on top of bills...
awwwwwwwwwwhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaww thats me screaming ...
kinda feel like crying but I told myself a while back that I won't sit down and cry about things but instead try to find a solution ... I am tempted bloggers
I hate going from feeling on top of the world to feeling down and out... I wish things would just go right for at least 1 Whole Week... I mean nothing going wrong. No car trouble, No disappointing news, No friend calling me whining and complaining about their less then perfect life ..as if mine is so awesome ...(thats for another blog). I know that life is going to be filled with downs...and that there will be ups...but yall I have been having alot of downs..
Ok enough of the pity party .. it's done and it will work out some way... some how ... it always does..and I always find a way.
Good news.. I'm still walking and feeling more confident in my ability to follow though on this weight journey everyday, my hair is napper then ever lol but I am so feeling it...at least on most days :) I'm good, I'm me and I'm alive, and with each new day I have the opportunity to make things better...Nothing better then that bloggers
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still

Just wanted to say that I'm still walking ...just haven't been blogging. And I'm no longer having issues with my foot and leg..guess I just needed to get used to it. My best friend and my G-ma have been going with me.. my classmate has not returned .. I don't have an issue with going alone..I don't want to give you that idea .. I just like the company.  I am so excited about this journey .. and so happy that I still feel motivated to do this. in the past I have always stopped ... but I just feel like this time I can move forward .. I have not forgotten the pics.... it's coming ...I do still plan on moving my blogs about walking to another separate page.. The name of it is Fat Girl Walking .. url/ http://phatgirlwalkin.blogspot.com/ more then likely that will be the place I post up the pics.. My hair is doing really well ... I have really started to like it.
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Day-2

ok went walking again today this time with my sister.. who really just went to keep me company. I don't think my classmate is serious about doing this although she did talk a good game that first day. I'm disappointed in her but hey this is about my journey for me and not hers..I'll let her know that I'm here but other then that I can't force her to want this ...I asked her about walking tomorrow and even the next day but of course she "can't".."things to do" now bloggers she don't got no....yes don't got no lol... job just like I ain't got no job..so whats the problem...in the whole day you can't do something that will change your life with someone who also wants to make the change.. I don't know bloggers but I don't expect to see her at the track much or even again so it's just me trying to stay motivated by myself ...by the way my leg is still killing me lol...something is going on with my left foot.. I seem to be walking on the side of it instead of the way I'm 'pose to ... it's making my whole leg hurt....I really have to find out whats up with that b/c the pain is nothing nice. chanting you can do it
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From Perm to Natural


My natural cut
 not the way people normally cut their hair when they make the jump but unlike most of my friends who are taking the jump My head is just to big to go that rout lol
Take my friend Tamara for example
She is just so working it with the mini fro...lol but her head is so much smaller thin mine lol
So this is the cut I'll be rockin while I go natural ... I will keep you posted on my hair journey bloggers
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Day 1- Walking

Ok so I finally started walking today and I feel so good about this. Its been a really loooooonnng time since I have even tried to diet..much less exercise... but I'm back in business. I went walking today with a friend of mine.. an old co-worker and new classmate, who's also plus sized. She's going though a divorce right now and she just really need a change..so this is her start.
Me? I'm just sick of being limited by my size. Sick of shopping for hours at select stores..only to still find nothing, sick of feeling tired at the smallest amount of walking... and simply sick of being this fat...I need a change and this is my start.
So wish me luck bloggers.. I so need to stick to it this time .. I will let you know how its going... 
 Oh I have also cut all my hair off and I'm going natural ..no perms.... omg the hair is a mess right now..pics coming soon.. I'll try to remember to start taking at lest one full body shot a month so you can see my rtprogress... maybe start up another blog about this journey I'm embarking on....My leg is K-I-L-L-I-N-G killing me...
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Calloway - I Want To Be Rich Official Video

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pose to start walking tomorrow with a friend ...frankly I'm stressin so much right now that I've got to do something.
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ahhhhhaahhhhhhhhaaaaahhhhhhhhh....Thats me screaming
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Article I found online...READ IT!!

Behind the statistics about single mothers lies a complicated story about men
Betty Bayé

A friend recently took a European vacation with her man and expects to meet his parents later this year.
"Do you think he's the one?" I whispered to her when the other women around us weren't listening.
"Maybe," she said, flashing a very hopeful grin.
Later, it occurred to me that I have quite a few women friends, either in their 50s or close to it, who have never been married.
Mostly, they're solidly educated, well-read and well-traveled professionals and entrepreneurs. Yet, as together as they are, they remain among the African-American never-marrieds.
Don't get me wrong. Few of my never-married women friends sit around pining for some prince. They hardly have time. They're thoroughly modern; in fact, several haven't allowed the absence of a groom to deny them motherhood. Some are solo parents of adopted children and foster children, and a few have given birth the old-fashioned way, fully expecting to rely on "the village" (family, friends, church or such groups as Big Brothers/Big Sisters) to assist them with their parenting.
Still, plenty of life-long unmarried African Americans I know would love to marry. Or, as one put it, "to at least be asked."
Sadly, as many as a third of African-American women who harbor such dreams won't see them fulfilled if they limit their choice of mates to only African-American men.
Though my eyeballing is suggesting ever more strongly these days that younger African-American women aren't bothering to limit their marriage options to black men, the 2000 Census found that 73 percent of black-white couples were black men married to white women.
The dilemma for African-American women who wish to marry African-American men virtually shouted from the pages of the March Governing magazine.
An article about altering welfare policies to focus on fathers included a chart showing that the percentage of black children under 18 years old living with a single, never-married parent rose from 14.1 percent in 1970 to 28.7 percent in 1980, to 51.8 percent in 1990, to 63 percent in 2002. ( I think it's now 71%)Numerous studies over the years have given explanations for the absence of enough marriageable black men to go around.
Some key reasons include welfare policies that drove men out of poor black households, black men's chronic joblessness (their rates often are double and triple that of whites) and the government's war on drugs. For at least two generations now, that war has resulted in hundreds of thousands of African-American males spending their prime years for getting educated and marrying behind bars.
Other factors are homosexuality and the lopsided mortality rate for African-American men compared to every other group. A new study of health inequalities, for example, found that African-American men account disproportionately for African Americans' 83,000 "excess deaths" in any given year.
So, when all is said and done, the pickings are pretty slim for African-American women romantically interested in black men only. And the irony to me is how many Sundays such women sit in churches being lectured, mostly by married male preachers, that if they want to marry, it's their duty to do so with men with whom they're "evenly yoked" -- meaning men who are similar in faith, income, education and dreams.
"Easy for the preacher to say," many women mumble as they look around in the church, on the job and out in the world and see what's as clear as the noses on their faces: that most of the black men with whom they'd stand a chance of being evenly yoked aren't available.
Obviously, there's a need for more African-American men to get themselves together; to take more serious personal responsibility for their lives. But African Americans didn't create this imbalance between black men and women all by themselves. Nor can they fix it all by themselves. If we as a society are demanding that more black men become good husbands and responsible fathers, we must also strive to eradicate the social, economic and political policies that unfairly target black males to fail and that perpetuate the false notion that, in the words of one recent study, "the dramatic rise in African-American single motherhood is a capricious choice."

Betty Bayé reports on social issues with an emphasis on women and African-Americans. Her column appears Thursdays in The Forum. Read them online at;
http://www.courier-journal.com/.
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What happened to the black MAN??..II

One of the most important and most influential people in my life growing up was my great-uncle Mr. Charlie Huffman.  Uncle Charlie was there when I was a toddler holding my hand, babysitting me while my mom and grandma was at work, and just simply there. My uncle took me to school everyday and when my sister and I wanted to play jump rope he would turn the other end since there was only two of us and my brothers didn't want to play with "lil girls". The first time I rode my bike without training wheels Uncle Charlie was there cheering  me on and when I fell off he dusted me off told me "you can do it girl" and put me back on, and when I was able to ride without falling off he said " there you go girl, you sho can ride that bike"... he ..was there.
I didn't have a father growing up. I know who he is of course, and I saw him from time to time but it was Uncle Charlie who was my dad. Uncle Charlie who took me shopping, met my first boyfriend, and taught me how to drive. Some nights we would sit up til the sun came up laughing and watching movies, and on the weekend we would take a long drive to the country.
He was nice, kind, and sweet. and still had a job at 80 years old.
He fixed things that was broken without anyone asking, he mowed the grass, raked the yard, planted flowers, and still managed to look out for me. He was a man.
So tell me readers if my uncle was able to do all these things at 80 why is it so hard to find a 30 year old man who will do it?
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